Today Mr. Man & I have been married fifteen years. We have moved ten times. The home we're in now we believe is "forever", but that doesn't mean we don't appreciate the other places we've stopped in our journey along the way.
Our first place was a furnished summer sub-lease, which we found out after moving in, hadn't been approved by the owners. They graciously let us stay. It was a beautiful place to get our start as us.
The next place we were offered was a trailer. It was $100 a month for a reason. Tiny, twenty minutes into nowhere, spongy floors, and an oven that didn't work. We were so grateful for the toaster oven we received as a wedding present! This is the place that made every single one since look like a castle.
Then there was an opening in on-campus married housing. A larger apartment, with classy vinyl furniture, tile floors, and metal cabinets in the kitchen. The first night the mattress sank into a U. Campus living at it's finest.
And all that was just the first six months.
By our first anniversary, we had been living in Lawrence another six months. My in-laws were our landlords, graciously allowing us to abide in a beautiful white 2 story, 4 bedroom house. It had a huge combined living/dining room, and a front porch with a swing. One caveat, the only room with a/c was our bedroom. Due in early November with our first child, I spent a lot of time in there.
Shortly after our first anniversary Mr. Man got his first real job in Topeka, so we moved yet again...this time to a huge one bedroom apartment. I loved that apartment. That apartment is where our "real lives" took off. It's where we lived when our first son was born. It was where we met the best friend a new mom could have, Marmee. When the baby was about a week old, I felt like superwoman. I was going to be the perfect wife, and make husband beef stew from scratch to surprise him after work on his first day back. Never has a neighbor across the hall who wants to hold a baby been more welcome. She was my best friend for the next eight years, and we still try to stay in touch.
At the end of a year, we realized we needed space. Marmee's brother bought a house for us to rent. It was a three bedroom ranch with a mostly fenced back yard, and laundry in the kitchen, the perfect home for our growing family. The following June, E1 came to join us. We got a dog. We had a garden, flowers in front, vegetables in back. Eventually though, we got the itch to own. Marmee's health was starting to decline too. The second floor apartment was getting to be too much. Mutually it was agreed, we'd buy a house and Marmee would move into the rental.
Instead of buying a house, we ended up building one. Some people say that's the big marriage "test". I felt it was more of an adventure. Mr. Man & I agreed on pretty much everything, except the color for the exterior of the home. I submitted to his preference gladly, for rarely do we disagree. The realtor wasn't too happy about the blue carpet, but I didn't do brown, and he wouldn't do grey. We both liked blue. We had a couple more kids, added a ferret, and had July 4th parties in our front yard. It was the american dream. I could write a book about the idyllic years in that home from our kids point of view. Unfortunately, we really couldn't afford to stay, so pregnant with our fifth child, we moved again.
This time from the american dream to the american nightmare...except I really, really, loved that house. I just wish we could have transplanted it into a better neighborhood. It was a huge, sprawling four bedroom traditional two story. We had a nice sized living area, and a "real" dining room. The floors in two of the bedrooms were wood. It had a covered front porch that caught cool breezes on hot days. The kids could ride their trikes on the sidewalk in front of the house for hours. We only had to walk about a block to go the park. On the downside, Mr. Man fell through the stairs to the basement once doing laundry. We had to pick up broken glass from the yard and watch the kids every second they were outside. Somebody broke in and robbed us through our bedroom window, which we then noticed did not have a lock. We heard gunshots once or twice, from about a block south. The kitchen counters weren't anchored to the wall. The kitchen pipes froze in the winter, and our bedroom was built on without insulation. When we checked once in the winter, the temp in our bedroom was forty degrees. (The kids rooms were fine. They were in the original part of the house. Our gas bills, not so much.) In the summer, our only a/c was a window unit my parents gave us, so we spent a lot of time at the pool, the mall, and the library. We moved in in November. The following August, Mr. man had a new job in KC. We got to move back "home", to where both our roots were.
We had found a family to replace us on Clay, but we had two weeks to find a new place...a new, four bedroom place that wouldn't mind five young children living there. We had our work cut out for us. In the end, we had two options, JoCo or Northland. Close to where we grew up, or close to work. In the end, having to go through a garage to get to a bedroom was the deciding factor, and we chose the home close to home. About a week after moving in, I found out I was pregnant with our sixth child. So, that home was already marked special. The friends I made through the school made it even more so. Eventually though, the disrepair the house was in overcame the location and layout. It was time to move again.
So here we are, in our "forever" home, courtesy of my in-laws. The house couldn't suit us better. It has five bedrooms, a formal dining room, a porch on the side, & a huge deck with built in seating. They playground is shaded in the morning, a fact I appreciate especially today, as I'm watching Si out on the slide.
This is where we'll build our story. Indeed, each of those homes holds many stories about us, and maybe someday I'll share them. The story of us is a beautiful thing.
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